14 Things Women May Not Know About Orgasms

Orgasms: sometimes reaching one seems as complicated as reaching the magical land through the closet in ‘the lion, the witch and the wardrobe’, the tiniest wrong turn, or speed, and you just won’t get there. But, they aren’t all scary; there are some really great facts about the big O! Plus some comfort ones. 1.You need to tense up to orgasm:Contrary to the popular relief that you need to relax or go limp to orgasm, your likelihood of reaching orgasm increases when you tense up. Doing a Kegel (imitating the contraction you would do if you were trying to hold in urine) sends blood flow to your vaginal area, which helps with arousal. 2.They can replace your Advil: Because having an orgasm releases oxytocin, a chemical that induces feelings of relaxation, peace, safety and other positive feelings, they can briefly alleviate pain from everything like a headache to arthritis. 3.Just thinking of an orgasm can relieve pain: Research has shown that simply thinking about an orgasm, really thinking about it by closing your eyes, visualizing a partner and imagining the sensations can relieve pain. 4.Condoms won’t minimize your orgasm:Studies have found that women are just as likely to reach orgasm with or without a condom. In fact, some scientists speculate condoms may help a woman’s chances of reaching orgasm: since the man doesn’t need to worry about ejaculating too early and needing to pull out, he might be able to last longer. 5.One in three women struggle to orgasm: Planned Parenthood reports that 1 in 3 women struggle to orgasm with a partner, and as high as 80 percent of women struggle to orgasm from intercourse alone. As a whole, female sexual dysfunction (which includes failure to orgasm) is experienced by 43 percent of women. 6.There are medications that can help you orgasm: Eros, an FDA-approved device, helps blood flow to the genitals and can up a woman’s chances of orgasm. There are also over-the-counter creams that can increase sensitivity in the vaginal region. 7.The origins of the ‘G-spot’: Many women believe the ‘G-spot’ simply stands for the ‘Good spot’ but in fact it is named after Ernst Gräfenberg, MD, a German gynecologist that discovered the region of female genitalia that contains a large cluster of nerve endings. 8.Orgasms improve with age: If you’re getting depressed about wrinkles or the effect gravity is taking on your b00bs, here’s one thing to cheer up about regarding getting older: your s*x life might get better. Studies have shown that more women in their 40’s and 50’s experience regular orgasms than women in their 30’s. There is no scientific reasoning behind these findings, but it could be because with time comes experience and older women know how to direct their partner to help them orgasm more. 9.Variety can help you orgasm: Women have reported having an easier time climaxing if they incorporate several sexual acts or positions into a romp session. For example, having your partner both manually please you and have intercourse with you will make it more likely that you’ll have orgasm than just one or the other. 10.If you love your vag*na, you’re more likely to orgasm: There is a link between a woman’s s*xual confidence and her likelihood of orgasm. If a woman feels insecure about the way her vag*na looks, feels, smells, tastes, you name it she’ll struggle to orgasm. Just know that there is no such thing as a ‘normal’ vag*na and they come in all shapes, colors and sizes. 11.Men don’t realize how infrequent your orgasms are: One study had 84 percent of men reporting that they believed their partners orgasm last time they had s37x, but only 64 percent of women reported having actually orgasmed during their last session in the sack. So, communicate. A lot of men don’t know that they need to work harder. 12.There is such thing as the spontaneous orgasm: You may have heard tales of women who orgasmed from riding a horse or getting a massage, and some of them may be true. Certain activities stimulate blood flow to the genitals and induce relaxation, two crucial components to reaching orgasm. 13.For the most part, men orgasm first: It’s normal that a woman takes much longer than her male partner to reach orgasm. In fact studies have found that most women need at least 20 minutes of s3xual activity to reach orgasm. 14.You can delay your guy’s orgasmIf premature ejaculation on your partner’s part is making it impossible for you to orgasm, there is a way to slow him down, without ruining the mood: try applying firm pressure around the base of his penis with your hand